5 Resolutions for Finding Love in 2012

Are you a single woman who’s spent years trying to find the perfect mate? Do you feel like your life is less than fulfilling because you don’t have anyone to ‘share’ it with? Have you sacrificed your femininity and self-confidence because you don’t have a ‘significant other’?

Sometimes a woman can spend so much time looking for who she wants that she has no time to be who she is. But an enlightened woman knows who she is – why she is at a certain place in her life – where she is gong and how to get there.

Here are five (5) Resolutions to lead you to the path of attracting a mate that thinks the world of you because you think the world of yourself:

RESOLVE to identify your gifts and purpose. Defining your purpose means knowing your passion, and identifying what you enjoy doing…then doing it! We must bring a strong sense of self & purpose into a relationship ... a sense of excitement about yourself and your life and the vision you have for both.

RESOLVE TO Acknowledge your Personal Power. Personal Power comes from within and depends upon you approving of YOU. When you know your power, you attract people into your life that bring more than they take, in terms of your emotional well being, your self-development and your personal growth.

RESOLVE that settling is NOT an option. Too many women do bargain-basement shopping. They operate in a ‘spirit of lack’; happy with whatever comes along as long as it doesn’t cost much.

Women Who Settle:
- Will accept whatever a man brings into her life, even if it’s not fulfilling.
- Does not acknowledge her own brilliance and sacrifices to ‘please her man’.
- Let’s her past dictate her actions of which the basis was fear of failure.

RESOLVE to Stay in the Driver’s Seat. If the woman who is reading this article gets only one thing from it, it should be this: You are the engineer and the conductor of your own train! That means YOU determine the direction, YOU do the driving and YOU decide who can and who cannot come on board. When you begin to take over the controls of ‘your train’, you determine the route you must take to reach your destination. Hopefully, you’ve learned from experience where the forks in the road are, where the hills and valleys are and where the detours are.

RESOLVE to Keep your Feminine Mystique. Women have been gifted with unique qualities found in women alone, like openness, softness, nurturing, feeling, intuition, poise, wisdom. These are spiritual attributes. In short, the power you have is internal. This is the feminine mystique. The word mystique suggests attitudes and feelings that are unseen or secret, something unexplained or unknown. The ‘mystique woman’ walks in the poise and polish that is unmatched by those that don’t know who they are. The dimension of your poise can project your needs, your personality, your goals and your destination. Your poise can inspire confidence in your abilities and your judgement and helps you create your best you.


If you’re looking for true and lasting love to find you this year, you can start by embracing the qualities that make you special and unique, and use them as an asset to attract who and what you want in your life. You will then empower yourself toward your Divine purpose and realize that You Are The One You’re Looking For.

Embrace your Uniqueness!

Looking for Love in 2012? ... Find Yourself First!

Are you a single woman whose spent years trying to find the perfect mate? Do you feel like your life is less than fulfilling because you don’t have anyone to ‘share’ it with? Have you sacrificed your femininity and self-confidence because you don’t have a ‘significant other’?

Sometimes a woman can spend so much time looking for who she wants that she has no time to be who she is. But an enlightened woman knows who she is – why she is at a certain place in her life – where she is gong and how to get there.

Here are four (4) things to keep in mind as you seek to develop the savvy to attract a mate that thinks the world of you because you think the world of yourself:

 Identify your Purpose
 Acknowledge your Personal Power
 Resolve that Settling is NOT an option
 Develop and Trust your Inner Spirit

Identify your Purpose: You must bring a strong sense of self & purpose into a relationship ... a sense of excitement about yourself and your life and the vision you have for both.

Acknowledge your Personal Power: Personal Power comes from within and depends upon you approving of YOU. When you know your power, you attract people into your life that bring more than they take.

Settling is Not an Option: Women who settle:
- Will accept whatever a man brings into her life, even if it’s not fulfilling.
- Does not acknowledge her own brilliance and sacrifices to ‘please her man’.
- Let’s her past dictate her actions of which the basis was fear of failure.
- It does not serve anyone when you “lower the bar” on whom you allow in your life.

Develop and Trust your Inner Spirit: An enlightened woman knows that her secret weapon is her spirituality, and that everything she believes, thinks and does is guided and directed by her inner spirit. A woman who lives from the inside out emanates an extraordinary feeling of power; an assurance, creativity and a deep desire to be all you’re created to be.

Many of us women have a tendency to make men extremely fascinating and powerful. We go into a relationship looking for love, not realizing that we must bring love with us.
And the irony of it all is that you can’t have an authentic relationship if you relinquish whom you are, and begin looking at yourself in relation to having someone else to love you – even more than you love yourself.

If you’re looking for true and lasting love to find you this year, you can start by embracing the qualities that make you special and unique and use them as an asset to attract who and what you want in your life. You will then empower yourself toward your Divine purpose and realize that You Are The One You’re Looking For.

YOUR COMFORT ZONE

I have been having an internal battle with myself lately (well actually this battle is on-going), concerning stepping outside of my comfort zone to achieve what I want to achieve in my life.

Our comfort zone is a very seductive place. We know it well. We feel safe there, and it is very easy to get lulled into believing that this is the sensible place to be living our lives. However, there is no creature alive that truly thrives living in a contained area; and that really is what our comfort zone is. It is a small, confined area that, although may provide us with an illusion of safety, actually denies us any opportunity to expand our skills, talents, knowledge, and sense of personal power.

This poem is contained in my book, and I wanted to share it with you here.

Comfort Zone

I used to have a Comfort Zone Where I knew I couldn't fail

The same four walls of busy work were really more like jail.

I longed so much to do the things I'd never done before,

But I stayed inside my Comfort Zone and paced the same old floor

I said it didn't matter, That I wasn't doing much

I said I didn't care for things like diamonds, furs and such

I claimed to be so busy with the things inside my zone,

But deep inside I longed for something special of my own.

I couldn't let my life go by, Just watching others win.

I held my breath and stepped outside and let the change begin.

I took a step and with new strength I'd never felt before,

I kissed my Comfort Zone "goodbye" And closed and locked the door.

If you are in a Comfort Zone, afraid to venture out,

Remember that all winners were at one time filled with doubt.

A step or two and words of praise, Can make your dreams come true.

Greet your future with a smile, Success is there for you!

Author Unknown

You must know the real truth about you, that you are uniquely gifted, exquisite as you are and designed to achieve whatever you want out of life. There is great wealth buried within you, allow yourself to develop the art of being an enlightened woman and live and love life to the maximum.

Find Your Magic!

Elayne